"I can’t go back to yesterday because I was a different person then."
Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland (via observando)
Luke 12:27-28 (KJV) I'm Jewel and I've lived two decades.
We begin to find and become ourselves when we notice how we are already found, already truly, entirely, wildly, messily, marvelously who we were born to be. The only problem is that there is also so much other stuff, typically fixations with how people perceive us, how to get more of the things that we think will make us happy, and with keeping our weight down. So the real issue is how do we gently stop being who we aren’t? How do we relieve ourselves of the false fronts of people-pleasing and affectation, the obsessive need for power and security, the backpack of old pain, and the psychic Spanx that keeps us smaller and contained?
Here’s how I became myself: mess, failure, mistakes, disappointments, and extensive reading; limbo, indecision, setbacks, addiction, public embarrassment, and endless conversations with my best women friends; the loss of people without whom I could not live, the loss of pets that left me reeling, dizzying betrayals but much greater loyalty, and overall, choosing as my motto William Blake’s line that we are here to learn to endure the beams of love."
The magnificent Anne Lamott on how to begin becoming the person you were meant to be.explore-blog)
FRS. (via sugarhowyou-getsofly)
I assure you, my trip to the NYBG was very educational for me….but this happened on the way. It could not be helped.
Most of our cacti appear frazzled by the fact that they’re so unhuggable. Poor fellas. …Except that one Chihuahuan snowball. She’s pretty chill about the whole thing. —MN
Ever wonder why we read the comments when we know we should never, ever read the damn comments? BrainCraft has a bit of troll psychology to share with you, about why we have to look, why anonymity breeds horrible behavior, and what negative effects abusive comments may have on the content they exist beneath (like, I dunno, educational YouTube videos?)
But more than all that, this video is about specific abuse that Vanessa and other female creators receive on a daily basis. Sure, we all get trolls of some kind, but the worst comment I see on an OKTBS video isn’t even close to what female creators have to deal with.
Not only do abusive comments make YouTube a dangerous place for creators like Vanessa (or Emily, who made a similar video last year), it makes it a dangerous place for people who are there to learn. We can not and should not allow this to happen.
Positive environments are something that we must just demand and *POOF* the internet will become a safe place full of rainbows and unicorns and intellectually stimulating discourse. We must actively work to create positive environments wherever we go on the web. So if you see something, say something, and make sure that trollish behavior and hate speech are not welcome anywhere where you are online, especially places where we’re trying to educate, inspire, and learn.
Also, white bears.
"Wait, for now.
Distrust everything, if you have to.
But trust the hours. Haven’t they
carried you everywhere, up to now?
Personal events will become interesting again.
Hair will become interesting.
Pain will become interesting.
Buds that open out of season will become lovely again.